The first time I got on a train was when I was 6 years old. Our parents, my brother and my brother returned to Hanoi after a weekend together. It was evening, and the journey seemed to last forever.
I sat back in the row of windows, watched the orange street lampposts interspersed among the dark bushes drifting tastelessly and wondering: “Will we ever get home?“.
Until I was impatient and couldn’t stand it anymore, I looked up to my dad and asked: “Are you going home yet, Dad? “.
“Don’t be crumpled”my brother said. “It’s been half an hour since I boarded the train. “
Obediently crouching down on the chair, I took out my backpack for souvenirs, including a maze ruler. Rolling around small iron balls for a while, I was so bored I fell asleep.
It was a long sleep, but when I woke up, I still could not believe my eyes that I had not arrived home yet. The sound of train wheels pounding down gaps in the tracks was still endless. It seems that I was trapped in a certain dimension, forever.
The train from Hai Phong to Hanoi 18 years ago, which lasted more than 3 hours, has now been shortened to only 2 and a half hours. However, when I experienced this journey again at the age of 25, I suddenly could not believe that it was so fast.
Almost three hours almost forever when I was 6 years old, now, it is only a long enough time for me to skim a book. By the time I folded the book, the train pulled the whistle to the last station.
A terrifying feeling suddenly surrounded my mind – What happened to the last 2 and a half hours? I feel like my time has been stolen.
Perhaps I was not the only person in the world who experienced that strange feeling about that time. When I ask my friends and the elders around me, almost everyone confesses that they feel time is passing faster.
We all feel time slows down when we are young and gradually accelerates as we grow or age. A friend told me that he felt like every year had gone faster and that Tet seemed to be coming sooner and earlier.
Every day, in the morning we go to work, we go home at night. Every week, we go to the gym every Monday and go to the movies every Saturday. We receive a monthly salary, each year has a New Year holiday …
In fact, all of these effects have been confirmed by psychological experiments. When psychologists take an elderly person and a young person into a closed room without a watch, the elderly will always guess the shorter time they spend there.
Psychological surveys also show that we feel that time passes faster when we compare it to the time when our age is only half or a quarter of the present. That means if you are 24 this year, you will see a year that is getting noticeably shorter than when you were 12 and earlier when you were 6 years old.
Normally, everyone will experience this effect for the first time in the years between the age of 20 and 30, which is when most of the 9x generation now begins to have a stable life.
We had a job, many had wives and children. Our lives now begin to be packed into dizzying loops. Everyday, in the morning, you go to work, come home at night, or weekly, you go to the gym every Monday morning and go to the movies every Saturday night. We receive a monthly salary, each year has a New Year holiday …
After a few years of being swirled in the vortex just dotted with those landmarks, we begin to realize that the interval between events seems to be getting shorter and shorter. Every evening comes faster, just like every Monday morning and every New Year. It was as if we had been put on a ferris wheel, with positive acceleration making it spin faster and faster.
The speed of time in your mind is the cause of what psychologists call “front telescope“in which we tend to think that past events have occurred more recently than they actually are.
Those are startled times to look back, when you find yourself 5 years after graduation, you’ve been married for 3 years. One of your relatives has lost a decade, but it seems that their death has just passed by in an instant. Be aware of the children this New Year when you celebrate their age. Your granddaughter or nephew who once held her back in her arms is now in first grade.
Not only today’s 9x generation, the effect of experiencing the acceleration of time has been studied since the 19th century. A hypothesis is called “Theory of proportion“was proposed by the French philosopher Paul Janet in 1897 to explain the phenomenon of time passing faster and faster as we get older.
Janet argues that every absolute time that constitutes your life will continually diminish as you calculate it using relative, proportional, measurement. Suppose, the year you were 10 years old, the year that passes by is counted as 1/10 or 10% of your life. But when you were 20 years old, a year would only be 1/20 or 5% of your life.
For a 50-year-old middle-aged man, 1 year back then was only 2% of the life he spent. Therefore, when you look back, the older you get and the older you get, the shorter and shorter the time.
In 1897, the French philosopher Paul Janet proposed rate theory to explain the acceleration of time as we age.
To visualize Janet’s Theory of Scale more visually, in 2015, Maximilian Kiener, an Austrian designer designed a website that could allow you toRoll the mouse to experience the relativity of time in mind.
As you can see here, Maximilian Kiener began to simulate the life of a 4-week-old child. At that time, its week lasted 25% of its life and was almost endless. But by the time a child is 1 year old, 1 week will only be equal to 2% of life. The same is a number, you will see 1 year passing at the age of 50 will be just like a week of a child turning one year old.
Albert Einstein also talked about our relative perception of time. “An hour in a company with beautiful girls would pass faster than an hour sitting on a dentist’s chair“Einstein died at 76. Kiener said a year at 76 is only equivalent to 24 days when you were 5 years old, which is the period from early December until you get the New Year holiday.
Suppose you lived to be 100, then half of your relative time actually passed when you were 7 years old. But if you count that all the memories of the first 3 years of your life are gone, half of the memories you have and will experience to be recalled in your life are, in fact, ended the day you pass. 18 years old.
Not surprisingly, many people say that we started to age when we grew up, and died at the age of 25. Think about 18 and now, how quickly do you see the 10-year period passing by? .
At Janet’s scale, when you look back your whole life at the age of 76, it will be just like a summer vacation in college when you first enter the first year.
On Kiener’s website, when the mouse pointer rolls past 25 years, you will see the numbers begin to accelerate. It quickly passed the threshold of 30, 40 and 50. Decades will pass like a moment under the index finger is scrolling the mouse at your steady pace.
And even if you try to slow it down, you will still feel your fingers hot as the friction of time screeches and passes through it.
Now you know “Theory of proportion“Janet’s may be an explanation for the consistent rate of increase in the flow of time in life. But behind the numbers what is 10%, 5% or 2% is actually? Why are their brains? Do we feel those absolute times so relatively?
In the book “Making time: Why time seems to pass at different speeds and how tho control it“, Dr. Steve Taylor, a psychology professor at Leeds Beckett University, UK, went on to explain that through a theory he called”Cognitive time theory“.
According to Taylor, the acceleration of the absolute time we experience is primarily related to our perceptions and experiences of the world around us, and these perceptions and experiences change as we progress. grow up and grow old.
The speed of time seems to be largely determined by the amount of information our minds absorb and process – the more information there is, the slower time passes. This connection was confirmed by psychologist Robert Ornstein in the 1960s.
In a series of experiments, Ornstein played volunteers with tapes that recorded many noises, such as mouse clicks or household noise. These tapes are the same length, but the amount of noise therein differs.
At the end of each experiment, when the video was finished, Ornstein asked the volunteers to estimate the amount of time they spent listening to it. Interesting phenomena have emerged, with volunteers listening to audible tapes, such as having twice the number of mouse clicks, who will estimate longer time periods.
And not just with sound, Ornstein found that his experiment could be extended to a much more complex type of information. For example, when volunteers are brought into a gallery with different paintings: The group of people who enter the room contains the most abstract paintings, with the most information estimating the amount of time they spend. out in that longest.
Children’s hearts are beating faster than ours, their body temperature is higher, they are breathing faster and their blood flow is faster. The clock inside a child’s body is about 24 hours longer than what we have every day.
Taylor’s time-delayed information theory could also explain why when we were young, time seemed to pass so slowly. That’s because children are constantly absorbing vast amounts of information from the surrounding world.
Everything in that world is new to a child. When I was standing at Hanoi train station when I was 6 years old, I was overwhelmed by what was there. Straight columns, bright doorways, countless noisy passengers turned it into a vast maze.
I always had to follow my brother’s heels in order not to get lost at every turn of the stairs, as I walked through the waiting hallways. The childhood train station was a much more intense, lively and overwhelming world than when I was 25 years old. Now, I can get off the train, walk while plugging my face into the phone without noticing it.
And this is also one of the reasons why we often remember our childhood as the happiest time. Do you find past Tets filled with things much more beautiful and interesting than now? That’s because all our experiences in the past, when we were young, were very intense.
Observe children playing or doing anything. Even when they sit still, they are not really sitting still, but their minds are still campaigning to continuously receive a mess of information from the outside world.
I still remember when I was young, I could sit beside a pot of bread without getting bored. My eyes will be fixed on the dancing flames, while my ears will still hear the sound of firewood, under the background music of Cheri Cheri Lady coming from the cassette player in the house.
And not only the sight and hearing, a child’s nose will also feel the extremely delicate sound of the boiling dong. Warm hands are exposed to the fire suddenly cold when you pull it away, the drizzle is pouring out and the New Year of childhood is always cold days to cut flesh.
A child’s perception amplifies every experience it has compared to adults. Scientific research shows that children’s hearts are beating faster than ours, their body temperature is higher, they are breathing faster and their blood is also flowing faster. A child’s body clock is about 24 hours longer than what we have every day as an adult.
When you have gone through dozens of Tet holidays before, had dozens of year-end meals with your family, went home dozens of times, watched fireworks and watched all 15 Apple Quan programs, you will see everything is no longer Fascinating too.
And there are theories that children live in longer moments, so they feel time goes slower. Think of a watch that is set to run 25% faster than normal time: After 12 hours of practice, it has run for 15 hours and after a day, it has run 30 hours.
Older people, on the other hand, have lower metabolic rates, slower blood flow and their body watches seem to spin less than 24 hours a day. Awareness intensity, of course, also decreases.
As we grow and get older, the world around us suddenly becomes a boring and familiar place – so boring and familiar that we stop paying attention to it. A child may pay attention to the buildings and streets around him, but why should you do so when you have seen them tens of thousands of times in your life?
The same for Tet. When you have gone through dozens of Tet holidays before, had dozens of year-end meals with your family, went home dozens of times, watched fireworks or watched all 15 Apple Quan programs, you will see everything is no longer Fascinating too. Tet now is just … normal. Tet holiday!
And that is also why time seems to be accelerating as we mature. Once we have had enough experience, we begin to see the magical lights of the childhood world disappear, we trivialize everything around us. We are more indifferent and more brave.
Gradually, the conscious attention we give to our surroundings disappears, when our empirical records are full, we don’t want to cram them anymore. The older we get, the less information we receive, which means our time passes faster.
The timeline is no longer stretched out, because the amount of information you pin on there is too little.
So as we grow older, the world around us will become more and more familiar. We are also drawn into loops day by day, month by month, year by year, which reduces the amount of information we receive (including perceptions, feelings, and thoughts) over time.
Therefore, we see time passing faster after each year. As the American philosopher and psychologist William James once said: “As each year passes, some of your experience will be turned into automated habits“.
A New Year’s Eve when you turn 10 will be different from a Tet when you’re 25 years old. Let’s take a look at how many things have disappeared from your reality, or even if they’re still there but you won’t Now notice:
Banh chung, banh tet, Tet markets, the last lesson before the holiday, homework, year-end parties, fireworks, Tet wishes of the President, messages on the phone buttons, chicken, candied jam, lucky money, new clothes, a chance to go home, spring trips, go to the temple, be happy, celebrate Tet inside and outside …
And look what you did in the last two New Year holidays: Do you still have the same old party? Are you fed up when you have to send a car, crowded to see fireworks? Are you surfing the Facebook feed continuously? Do you oversleep? You meet relatives, friends, old people and they still ask you old questions: “Never married, ever married, ever promoted, ever … ever …”
To be honest, if one year back and forth had passed quickly to you, a week of Tet holidays would have passed much faster. So if you want time to slow down, and there is a meaningful New Year, what should you do?
In the book “Making Time“Dr. Steve Taylor outlined two rules that he suggests that people slow down their time. First, he said.”time seems to slow down as we come into contact with new environments and new experiences“.
In a new environment, strangeness will wake us up, helping us to receive more information. It can be done in many ways such as traveling to new places, creating new challenges, learning a new skill, a new hobby, meeting new people, reading a new book, watch a new movie genre …
If you are a sleepy person, try getting up early during the New Year, if you have never been to the market, try going to the market, if the whole year you haven’t done any exercise, try jogging or swimming swim…
To be fair, no matter how boring Tet is, it’s a great opportunity to break your daily routines. The time during a week of Tet holiday will be slower than in your one-week commute, when you no longer have to bring your bag to work, bring your bag home and sleep on the weekends.
Tet has many activities that can help you extend your time, just do not repeat what you did during your normal working days. If you are a sleepy person, try getting up early during the New Year, if you have never been to the market, try going to the market, if the whole year you haven’t done any exercise, try jogging or swimming swim…
A special thing to avoid if you want to extend your time, are activities that require focused awareness. “Time will flow faster in a focused state“That’s because when our attention is limited to a small space and objects, we automatically block all information from our surroundings to the senses.
Plugging in a video game is a good way to kill time, but you won’t want to do it during the New Year holidays because it will burn the time you have. Similarly, never get hooked on gambling games one after another. Maybe you sit down at the beginning of the afternoon and you’re probably just playing for a while. But then you will be surprised because it is already a good time to stand up.
Faster time in concentration also explains why card players feel less time than those around them. When you play cards, do people outside of you always urge you to get up and go out, because they were too impatient with the flow of their time?
The second rule Steve Taylor points out in his book, is the one he suggests that people apply more: We can slow down time by conscious effort, to have new experiences. even in old jobs.
Suppose, you cannot skip an annual meal with your family during Tet. It seemed like it would be a much more boring activity than going on a long trip with new friends abroad.
But by practicing mindfulness, Taylor’s explanation is to put all of our attention and all our senses into an experience – to what we are seeing, feeling, tasting, Smelling or listening – rather than letting our thoughts drift unconsciously in your mind, you will also extend your time and make it more meaningful.
For example, instead of having your mind think and bother about old questions like “Never married, married“You can turn your mind to new and more meaningful thoughts. For example, ask the opposite person about their business over the past year, if you think it is a story. can help me have more interesting lessons.
New stories will make a new party. Never repeat old stories and ask old questions again if you know the answer you get is still the same answer. The good news is that we always have new stories to tell, as long as you know how to exploit them.
You will still have 24 hours on a Tet holiday, but with more new, more positive experiences, you will lie down in bed at night and find your day has passed slower and more meaningful.
Even your loved ones, one year ago and one year later, they were different people, if you expanded all your senses to feel about them. You will never see the same person again, if you look closely at them to see the wrinkles begin to appear on the face and the hair also has silver thread.
Along with that are subtle changes around the banquet that you can recognize when expanding the senses, a cat in the house, the arrangement of furniture, new bowls, chopsticks, a new speakers, new songs, a new smell of essential oils …
Ngay cả khi bạn phải là người rửa bát sau bữa tiệc, thực hành chánh niệm cũng giúp bạn có những trải nghiệm khác hẳn những kinh nghiệm khó chịu từng có trước đây với việc đó. Hãy để ý đến tốc độ chảy của nước, đến cảm giác mịn của xà phòng, tiếng miết tay vào một chiếc bát sạch bóng.
Bí quyết là hãy tập trung các giác quan của bạn để khuyếch đại những trải nghiệm thú vị và bỏ qua những cảm giác khiến bạn khó chịu, chẳng hạn như đừng để ý quá nhiều đến sự nhày nhụa của dầu mỡ, trừ khi bạn yêu thích môn hóa và bắt đầu tự hỏi độ nhớt của mỡ là bao nhiêu, khối lượng riêng của nó so với nước, dầu mỡ sẽ biến tính như thế nào dưới nhiệt độ…
Suy cho cùng, cả hai phương pháp mà Taylor đã gợi ý trong cuốn sách của ông đều làm tăng lượng thông tin sẽ ghim lên trên dòng thời gian của bạn. Bạn vẫn sẽ có 24 tiếng trong một ngày Tết, nhưng với nhiều trải nghiệm mới hơn, tích cực hơn, bạn sẽ nằm xuống giường vào buổi tối và thấy một ngày của mình trôi qua chậm hơn và đã có ý nghĩa hơn.
Từ quan điểm này, chúng ta sẽ không còn thấy thời gian như một kẻ thù của mình nữa. Thời gian không phải là một biến số không thể kiểm soát. Ở một mức độ nhất định, chúng ta có thể làm được điều đó.
Nhiều người trong số chúng ta cố gắng tập thể dục, ăn uống lành mạnh để đảm bảo có thể sống được càng lâu càng tốt. Chúng ta cũng thường chúc tụng nhau có thật nhiều sức khỏe và những người lớn tuổi sẽ trường thọ trong những dịp lễ Tết như thế này.
Tất nhiên, đó đều là những ước muốn tốt đẹp. Nhưng như đã nói phía trên, cả một cuộc đời khi bạn nhìn lại mình ở tuổi 76 chỉ giống như một kỳ nghỉ hè vào năm nhất đại học. Vậy nên, hãy nhớ rằng mở rộng những trải nghiệm cũng là một cách để có cuộc sống trọn vẹn và hạnh phúc hơn.