Japan is a country that is often reclaimed in many areas. They have an extremely typical culinary culture, a well-organized human lifestyle, and a natural landscape that is attractive enough to all visitors in the world.
Overall, Japan has always been considered a perfect country. But is it really perfect? In fact, the culture of this country has a lot of strange things, even illogical, making even indigenous people feel sometimes bored.
1. Neighbors are willing to complain to the landlord if anyone … walks too noisy
Japanese houses have an interesting feature: most use lightweight and thin materials. This helps reduce construction costs but also brings a lot of annoyance, such as the fact that the wall is too thin, so that the sound from neighbors’ houses can be heard.
This is why when living in Japan, keeping silence is extremely important, but not only on public transport but also at home. For example, a Russian YouTuber once shared that his neighbor called and complained to the landlord, just because he … closed the door to the air-conditioner.
Of course, not everyone in Japan prefers to sneak at home, especially young people. They also organize parties at home, play loud music, talk freely, and not every neighborhood is like that. Only, too thin walls can cause a lot of trouble.
2. Neighbors cannot resolve conflicts by talking
In the story above, you might wonder why the difficult neighbor simply knocked on the door, asking the YouTuber to remain silent?
This is actually related to cultural issues. The Japanese do not have the habit of resolving conflicts through dialogue, and they will not do so. According to Alex Sturmey – a blogger with experience of many years living in Japan – the way to deal with “rude” neighbors in this country is to send a letter to the landlord only.
The landlord will then be responsible for writing back to the tenant, that the neighbors are upset about the noise they are making. So sometimes it’s just a problem but it takes a few letters to calm down.
3. Make friends with foreigners, but to … take advantage
Japanese culture does not like foreigners (in fact it is). Many Japanese also answer bluntly not to let foreigners rent. According to a survey from the Japan Association of Real Estate Management (JPMA), the reason lies in the language barrier. Not being able to communicate smoothly creates a lot of conflict, and they don’t like it.
However, there is a community in Japan – called “Gaijin hunter” (roughly translated: foreign hunters) – that is very open. They can make friends very quickly, even willing to date foreigners. However, the purpose behind making friends is to get married with peers, or to be taught a foreign language for free.
Mira, a Canadian YouTuber living in Japan, shares the following story: “My first friends in Japan were a group of Gaijin hunters. They were very cute, but later on knowing a little bit of Japanese, I was startled to realize they considered me to be” a free language teacher “, even even let out offensive words. ”
In addition, some Japanese women now tend to “hunt” foreign men for childbirth, believing that the child with crossbred blood will be extremely beautiful. That is why many models and actors in Japan now have two bloodlines.
4. Uchi and Soto – the distinction is somewhat “toxic”
In Japan, the terms Uchi and Soto are very popular. Uchi is directed to close people – including family members, relatives, close friends, or colleagues for years. The rest is Soto.
But so what? The problem is that in Japanese language, the grammar for Uchi and Soto will be different, and changing from Soto to Uchi takes a lot of time.
Some young activists in Japan think this system is really malicious, because it makes many people feel inferior, guilty, leading to alienating themselves from society and thereby creating Hikikomori (which is Please read below).
5. Hikikomori – 10 million Japanese deny society
Hikikomori are people who voluntarily separate from society. They are often young – less than 30 years old, but sometimes middle-aged people who are not retired but unemployed. It is estimated that in Japan, at least 10 million people are Hikikomori in working age.
Hikikomori usually live in parents’ houses, most of the time in the room, food and drinks are brought to take place. Some people don’t even communicate with anyone, and they’re willing to live like that for a decade. The Japanese government has been concerned about the phenomenon for many years, and must find a way to integrate the Hikikomori into the community but often ineffective.
6. 1: 5 couples have an affair
Japan is one of the countries with low divorce rates, but it’s not because all marriages are going smoothly. Even when life is stifling, they still choose to stay together, unchanged.
The reason is because many Japanese women choose to stay at home as housewives, and the divorce will put them in economic trouble. As for men, they are afraid that when they break up, they will not be able to see them anymore, so it is better to live like that.
In some places in Japan there is still an arranged marriage, and the love before marriage is inappropriate. That’s why it leads to unhappy marriage, plus the attitude towards adultery is not too strict, so the rate of adultery in Japan is very high. According to a survey by Sagami Rubber Industries (famous Japanese condom maker) in 2019, 15.2% of women and 20.5% of men admitted that they had betrayed their partners.
7. Couples only need to meet 1-2 times a month
Are you familiar with meeting your loved one every day (not counting the FA brothers)? Not in Japan! Couples in Japan find it quite normal to meet only a few times each month. They also don’t spend much time together: no texting, no sending pictures … It’s not that their love is bland, it’s already a habit.
Reference: BS, VT.co